My Baby Is Having Tantrums: How Should I React?

Tantrums can be stressful, especially when they happen suddenly and seem impossible to stop. But they’re a completely normal part of your baby’s emotional development. Tantrums usually begin around 12–18 months, when babies start to express frustration but don’t yet have the words to communicate their needs.

Why Do Babies Have Tantrums?

Tantrums are not signs of bad behavior — they are emotional reactions to frustration, tiredness, or overstimulation. Common triggers include:

• Feeling hungry, tired, or uncomfortable.
• Wanting independence but not being able to do something alone.
• Changes in routine or environment.
• Too much stimulation — loud noises, crowds, or bright lights.

Understanding what causes your baby’s tantrums helps you respond with empathy instead of frustration.

How to Respond Calmly

1. Stay calm: Your baby looks to you for emotional cues. If you stay calm, they’ll calm down faster.
2. Validate their feelings: Acknowledge emotions by saying “I know you’re upset” — this builds trust and emotional understanding.
3. Offer comfort, not punishment: Hold your baby gently, speak softly, and stay close. Physical comfort helps them regulate emotions.
4. Redirect attention: Offer a toy or change the environment to shift focus away from frustration.
5. Set gentle limits: Be consistent. If you say “no,” stick to it — babies feel safer with predictable boundaries.

When Tantrums Happen in Public

Public tantrums can be embarrassing, but remember: almost every parent has been there. Stay calm, avoid yelling or giving in to stop the noise. Move to a quieter place, hold your child, and wait until they’re calm before talking or leaving.

🧸 Practical Tips

• Keep snacks and toys handy to avoid hunger- or boredom-triggered tantrums.
• Stick to a consistent nap and meal routine — overtired babies are more likely to cry.
• Use simple language to explain what’s happening (“We’ll go home after the store”).
• Teach emotional words early, like “sad” or “angry.”
• Always praise calm behavior — positive reinforcement builds self-control.

References

• American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). Managing Tantrums in Toddlers.
• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Social and Emotional Development Milestones.
• Child Mind Institute. Understanding Tantrums in Young Children.

Disclaimer

This article is for informational purposes only and should not replace professional medical or psychological advice. Always consult your pediatrician or child psychologist if tantrums are frequent or severe.

💬 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

At what age do tantrums start?

Most children begin showing tantrums between 12 and 18 months, when they start expressing independence but lack verbal skills.

Should I ignore my baby’s tantrum?

Ignoring is not always effective. It’s better to stay nearby, remain calm, and offer comfort. Babies need reassurance that you’re there for them.

Can tantrums be a sign of a problem?

Occasional tantrums are normal. However, if they are frequent, prolonged, or accompanied by self-harm, talk to your pediatrician.

How can I prevent tantrums?

Maintain regular routines, avoid overstimulation, and recognize early signs of frustration. Redirect attention before a meltdown begins.

What if I lose my patience?

It happens to every parent. Take a deep breath, ensure your baby is safe, and give yourself a short moment to reset before responding again.